Friday, 24 May 2019

Why I'm Not Talking About Weight

Summer is coming. 
So guess what my social media is littered with?
Advertisements telling me how to achieve the 'bikini body.'

The fact that society is telling us to ascribe a particular body type with the ability to wear a bikini is so, so toxic and I am fed up.

Expectations of women fluctuate all of the time. With each decade, a new ideal emerges that we are supposed to adhere to. We are so much more than the numbers on a weighing scale. We are so much more than 'sculpted abs' and 'chiselled thighs.' As long as we are happy and healthy, then why are we caring?


As a young woman, I'm surrounded by images of what my body should look like. I'm a size 8/10 which is considered small, but I still look at my body and compare it with the images I'm constantly exposed to online. 

Yes, there has recently been more transparency surrounding different poses which make your body look thinner etc, but this achieves little when we see these doctored photos on a daily basis. Which raises the question, why are we sharing these images in the first place?

I have known too many young women who have suffered from eating disorders, turning food into an enemy, the obstacle between them and the ridiculous body type social media forces upon us.

We need to stop telling ourselves that our beauty, our belonging and our worth are based on the numbers that appear on a scale when we stand on it. 

We need to start reminding the females around us that they are stronger than a skewed standard imposed on us by society, and that there are far more important things than a pound lost or gained. 

So please, if you pick a salad over chips, make sure it's your decision and not somebody else's. 

You are loved for many reasons, and your weight is certainly not one of them.

“A cultural fixation on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty but an obsession about female obedience.” 
― Naomi Wolf

“Get Off The Scale!
You are beautiful. Your beauty, just like your capacity for life, happiness, and success, is immeasurable. Day after day, countless people across the globe get on a scale in search of validation of beauty and social acceptance.
Get off the scale! I have yet to see a scale that can tell you how enchanting your eyes are. I have yet to see a scale that can show you how wonderful your hair looks when the sun shines its glorious rays on it. I have yet to see a scale that can thank you for your compassion, sense of humour, and contagious smile. Get off the scale because I have yet to see one that can admire you for your perseverance when challenged in life.
It’s true, the scale can only give you a numerical reflection of your relationship with gravity. That’s it. It cannot measure beauty, talent, purpose, life force, possibility, strength, or love. Don’t give the scale more power than it has earned. Take note of the number, then get off the scale and live your life. You are beautiful!” 
― Steve Maraboli


  1. Brilliantly written and executed as always. It's always so exciting seeing conversations/ rants we have written down with all the point addressed fully xxx

    1. Thank you lovely! What can I say, I'm always inspired by our endless rants xxx

  2. It's true! True friends will make you feel at ease. They don't care about your looks, they value you the way you are. I learned this from experience. The friends I used to have made me feel self-conscious, but the true friends I have now don't even make me think about my looks. It's so toxic to be valued for only the way we looked. Although I was unnoticed when I was plain, when I was dressed up and with makeup I turned heads. You can definitely tell how mature and loving a person is by the way they act when you are plain.

    -Nadine :)

    1. I agree. I don't think we should see ourselves, without makeup, as plain though. I feel as if 'plain' has negative connotations and we should embrace the more natural version of ourselves more! X